This blog came out of my own personal experiences, along with a front-row seat that I had to the familiar patterns that would play out in the lives of those around me.
When I realized that so many people’s lives could be changed by one simple mindset shift, I knew that I had to at least attempt to share it with others in a meaningful way. If even just one woman finds encouragement, validation, freedom, or inspiration from this blog, then it is a success.
Our beliefs steer the course of our lives. I noticed that there’s one very pervasive and destructive mindset that causes women so much pain and defeat. The idea that their worth is determined by the relationship in their life, or lack of one, and that women somehow have an expiration date (determined by society and men) of 30 stamped on their foreheads.
The constant, all-consuming need to pursue men, figure out how to catch their interest and keep it forever, desperately trying to revolve our lives around a romance as the center of our universe. If you think I’m exaggerating, take a moment to read some of the articles and you’ll begin to see what I mean. The cosmetic/beauty industry is just one example in a very long list of devices in place that set women on a path of self-destruction and sacrifice of their own happiness or success. The tunnel vision and blindness is reinforced constantly, but once you see it, there’s no going back.
A recent conversation with a man about these ideas resulted in him saying that “your eyes have been too opened, and you’re going to have to find a way to shut it down or you’ll never be happy” Turns out, that it was one of the greatest keys to my freedom, happiness and confidence that I had ever unlocked.
As a visitor here, you are part of a fantastic community. Im just getting started in this movement. It is my hope that it will go viral and become a frequent hashtag for empowered women changing their lives for the better. Feel free to share this #365HappilySingleChallenge with everyone and be the movement that changes lives. Ask questions, do your own research, think outside the box, and open your mind to new possibilities.
I will do my best to gather resources of inspiration for living your best life, shaking up the narrative for women everywhere. This should be a source of positive, healthy and powerful mindsets that lead us into victory.
Kristi Johnson is a recent summa cum laude graduate of Texas A&M University-Central Texas and proud mother of three daughters. Her educational background is focused primarily in teaching, liberal studies, and sociology. As a divorced single mother who has experienced the trials of marriage, separation, infidelity, and blended families she is passionate about helping others.